Post by sexy on Sept 30, 2008 21:38:29 GMT -5
Behenji or Bombshell?
By Tanvi Sharan
Rani Mukherji made being a small town girl fashionable with Shaad Ali's Bunty aur Babli. Sassy, spunky and sexy Babli was everything a girl would want to be. Her small town bearings did not, in any way, affect her drool quotient for men.
But art doesn't impersonate life always. We come across numerous instances where girls from small town are heaped with innuendos like BTM (behenji-turned-mod) and gawar. No doubt, they have proved their mettle in academics and in work arena, but how desirable are they on the appeal-o-meter? Would slick city men want to date them?
"Have you paid attention to their accent? Man, I would have to kill half the time trying to grasp what she wants to say. Naah, don't think it's my cup of tea," says Dhruv who is a drummer with a fledgling rock band in the nation's capital.
"Frankly, only if I am starved for options," says Sukumar Guha, a young IT professional in Mumbai who himself belongs to the backwaters of Assam.
On being reminded of his roots, he retracts his statement, "Actually, I wouldn't mind if she has made efforts to be 'up to the mark'."
There are others who do not care for tact. "I wouldn't want to be seen with a behenji. Period," says Shakul Nath who is a class XII student at an elite school in Delhi.
What is it about small town girls that makes them not-so-fit for dating? "They go berserk when they come to live in a big city. In their wide-eyed fascination, they begin to ape city chics. You know what the result is - it's a pathetic mess," says Kaustubh who works as a call center executive in Bangalore.
Dhiman, who works for an IT major in Seattle, US, has an interesting observation, "We men date to have fun. A small town girl is usually not frivolous and is looking for commitment at the onset. That puts men off." So would he look for a small town girl when he is looking for commitment? "You read my mind," says he zestfully. "In fact, girls from smaller towns are more reliable and trustworthy."
There are others who endorse Dhiman's view. "I would only get married to a girl who has roots in small town. After several relationships with city girls, I know they cannot be trusted," says Ankur Gupta who runs a construction business in Delhi.
On the other hand, there are others who have a more balanced approach. "It's not about small town or big cities. If I find the girl interesting, why would I mind dating her? And if all goes well, I can also get into a serious relationship," says Tanmay, who working as a software engineer in Atlanta, US.
Azra Siddiqui, a quintessential small town girl, is now married to handsome and suave Allam, a big city guy. "She is everything I was looking for in my life partner. I don't care if she came from Bareilley or Baroda," says Allam, who belongs to Mumbai.
What do the girls in question have to say? "I don't understand the small town stigma. I'm alright. How can you love me or hate me for coming from a particular place?" says Ruchi Sinha, who comes from a small town in Bihar and is pursuing graduation at a prestigious college in Delhi. "
"Will men stop drooling at Priyanka Chopra and Kangna Ranaut because they come from small towns?" she asks pointedly. That's food for thought!
By Tanvi Sharan
Rani Mukherji made being a small town girl fashionable with Shaad Ali's Bunty aur Babli. Sassy, spunky and sexy Babli was everything a girl would want to be. Her small town bearings did not, in any way, affect her drool quotient for men.
But art doesn't impersonate life always. We come across numerous instances where girls from small town are heaped with innuendos like BTM (behenji-turned-mod) and gawar. No doubt, they have proved their mettle in academics and in work arena, but how desirable are they on the appeal-o-meter? Would slick city men want to date them?
"Have you paid attention to their accent? Man, I would have to kill half the time trying to grasp what she wants to say. Naah, don't think it's my cup of tea," says Dhruv who is a drummer with a fledgling rock band in the nation's capital.
"Frankly, only if I am starved for options," says Sukumar Guha, a young IT professional in Mumbai who himself belongs to the backwaters of Assam.
On being reminded of his roots, he retracts his statement, "Actually, I wouldn't mind if she has made efforts to be 'up to the mark'."
There are others who do not care for tact. "I wouldn't want to be seen with a behenji. Period," says Shakul Nath who is a class XII student at an elite school in Delhi.
What is it about small town girls that makes them not-so-fit for dating? "They go berserk when they come to live in a big city. In their wide-eyed fascination, they begin to ape city chics. You know what the result is - it's a pathetic mess," says Kaustubh who works as a call center executive in Bangalore.
Dhiman, who works for an IT major in Seattle, US, has an interesting observation, "We men date to have fun. A small town girl is usually not frivolous and is looking for commitment at the onset. That puts men off." So would he look for a small town girl when he is looking for commitment? "You read my mind," says he zestfully. "In fact, girls from smaller towns are more reliable and trustworthy."
There are others who endorse Dhiman's view. "I would only get married to a girl who has roots in small town. After several relationships with city girls, I know they cannot be trusted," says Ankur Gupta who runs a construction business in Delhi.
On the other hand, there are others who have a more balanced approach. "It's not about small town or big cities. If I find the girl interesting, why would I mind dating her? And if all goes well, I can also get into a serious relationship," says Tanmay, who working as a software engineer in Atlanta, US.
Azra Siddiqui, a quintessential small town girl, is now married to handsome and suave Allam, a big city guy. "She is everything I was looking for in my life partner. I don't care if she came from Bareilley or Baroda," says Allam, who belongs to Mumbai.
What do the girls in question have to say? "I don't understand the small town stigma. I'm alright. How can you love me or hate me for coming from a particular place?" says Ruchi Sinha, who comes from a small town in Bihar and is pursuing graduation at a prestigious college in Delhi. "
"Will men stop drooling at Priyanka Chopra and Kangna Ranaut because they come from small towns?" she asks pointedly. That's food for thought!